On this day, 7 years ago, Jeremy and I stood in the chapel on the USS Ronald Reagan and became husband and wife. To some it may not seem like we have been married long, but for us we have lived a lifetime in these long and short years. So many changes, moves, countless days/months apart, two sweet boys and an angel. I am so blessed to walk through this life with Jeremy by my side.
When we got married, I thought I could not possibly love this man more than that moment... but every day since my love for Jeremy has grown for so many reasons. Taking our vows, in sickness and in health was of course included, but I never knew just what it would mean for us. We knew that I had migraines, but over the years they got worse and worse until I was diagnosed as chronic. I also deal with other significant health issues, but chronic migraine is most prevalent on a daily basis. Jeremy has unending patience with me, and it is one of the things I admire most about him. Never, never in our relationship has he gotten angry with me or placed blame on me for my illnesses. I apologize all the time, but he never accepts it- he tells me not to apologize for something that is out of my control. It is difficult to put into words how much that means to me. Jeremy loves me, encourages me, comforts me and cares for me in a way that I couldn't have predicted when we said our vows.
Thinking about Jeremy, I think about dreams. He has taken the far off hopes I had for myself and turned them into our life. He is the most sincere, compassionate, loving man... And I thank God endlessly because He created Jeremy to love me. Because of his love, I look at our life everyday and I am so thankful. I aspire to tenderly love him the way he loves me. I fully appreciate that this is a love that not everyone gets to live, one with their best friend and true soul mate. Our relationship is the air, the water, the food that nourishes my soul. Together, I know any dream we have can become a reality. Sometimes life has been hard in these 7 years, but loving Jeremy and nurturing our relationship has been the easy part.
The Marriage Box
Most people get married believing a myth that marriage is a beautiful box full of all the things they have longed for: compassion, intimacy, friendship, etc. The truth is that marriage at the start is an empty box. You must put something in before you take anything out. There is no love in marriage. Love is in people. And people put love in marriage. There is no romance in marriage. You have to infuse into your marriage. A couple must learn the art and form the habit of giving, loving, serving, praising keeping the box full. If you take out more than you put in, the box will be empty.
- unknown author